My Gender Unicorn 


Gender Identity: Gender Identity: One’s internal sense of being male, female, neither of these, both, or another gender(s). Everyone has a gender identity, including you. For transgender people, their sex assigned at birth and their own internal sense of gender identity are not the same. Female, woman, and girl and male, man, and boy are also NOT necessarily linked to each other but are just six common gender identities.
Gender Expression/Presentation: The physical manifestation of one’s gender identity through clothing, hairstyle, voice, body shape, etc. Most transgender people seek to make their gender expression (how they look) match their gender identity (who they are), rather than their sex assigned at birth.
Sex Assigned at Birth: The assignment and classification of people as male, female, intersex, or another sex based on a combination of anatomy, hormones, chromosomes. It is important we don’t simply use “sex” because of the vagueness of the definition of sex and its place in transphobia. Chromosomes are frequently used to determine sex from prenatal karyotyping (although not as often as genitalia). Chromosomes do not determine genitalia.
Sexually Attracted To: Sexual Orientation. It is important to note that sexual and romantic/emotional attraction can be from a variety of factors including but not limited to gender identity, gender expression/presentation, and sex assigned at birth.
Romantically/Emotionally Attracted To: Romantic/emotional orientation. It is important to note that sexual and romantic/emotional attraction can be from a variety of factors including but not limited to gender identity, gender expression/presentation, and sex assigned at birth.

Example of how to fill out your own Gender Unicorn:

Many people were curious if agender and asexual people were included in this graphic. In short, they are. For example, identifying on the left of the sexuality spectra would indicate no attraction.

Changes from The Genderbread Person
You may recognize this graphic as similar to The Genderbread Person

by itspronouncedmetrosexual. We created a similar graphic with significant changes to more accurately portray the distinction between gender, sex assigned at birth, and sexuality.

The above text and graphic courtesy of Trans Student Educational Resources

Fairy JerBear at Santa Fe LGBTQIA+ Pride, June, 2016

My Gender Unicorn

This is who I am. My gender identity is “agender” technically meaning genderless. I, however, prefer the definition “beyond gender.” My gender expression tends to be more feminine or unisex but includes some masculine items. I was assigned male at birth. I’m physically/sexually attracted to men, specifically androgynous guys. I’m also attracted to trans masculine and many non-binary gender identified individuals. I prefer to use “queer” to label my sexual orientation, although the identity, “polysexual,” also applys. Finally I’m emotionally attracted to gentle, nurturing and loving individuals. These traits are found across genders, hence the selection of multiple genders in this catagory.

Had I been aware of these options in the early seventies, when I was in my mid-teens, my life would have taken a very different course. Thankfully I have now embraced my authentic self. I know it will take some time for many of you to process this information. All I ask from my family and friends is your tolerance, your acceptance and your virtual embrace.

Note: My Gender Unicorn differs from the example in that if a field doesn’t apply to me I left it blank. Thus on gender identity I only indicated that my identity was “other.”

About Agender Jeri 🦄

A disabled, trans/agender person living in the American Southwest and passionate about social justice, the environment, Trans/ LGBTQIA+ equality and combating bullying.
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1 Response to My Gender Unicorn 

  1. vicromero says:

    I love that it’s called “gender unicorn” cuz it sounds so magical!

    Liked by 1 person

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